19 Responses to “Food For Your Soul: What Binky and Your Brain Have in Common”


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  1. kylieonwheels

    I reckon if we all knew ‘the answer’, we may as well pack up and go home. Finding the answer is what keeps life interesting :D

    Happy searching!

  2. Good food for thought. It kinda caught me off guard this morning but I’m pretty sure it’s going to be on my mind all day. Something we should all think about more. Thanks for sharing.

  3. Fantastic idea and very well laid out! I think the concept of switching on to give is something we need to train ourselves to do. I may be alone in this, but I don’t think giving is Binky’s natural state. You definitely gave me something to think about this morning!

  4. Hell, forget who the money’s for, I’d be happy just playing the video game. Maybe I feel that way, though, because I work a non paying job that benefits uninsured, low income patients every day.

    But it’s odd that you say that you can’t be self-serving and compassionate at the same time, because I feel both all the time. I love my job, I love helping people (compassion) – it makes me happy (self-serving pleasure). Maybe I’m the odd one out.

    • Chantel

      Giving feels good and we do it more because we love it. It’s a paradox you only understand by giving. Getters don’t get it.

  5. Alice

    I agree with Vanessa- and isn’t trading giving and getting at the same time as well?

  6. Binky is an awesome way to illustrate your point! I posted about having enough earlier this week, and I suspect that there are more than two give/get settings. I’m getting to a point in my life where I feel like I’m happy with what I have and how I live. It’s not really a balance between giving and getting so much as contentment and recognizing when I no longer need more.

    I completely agree that the drive to attain more (and more) has been terrible for any sense of social and environmental responsibility. And consciousness is definitely part of the equation. Great post.

  7. You know where I stand on the matter of making money.

    I also think it’s totally possible to be compassionate and giving while earning money. There is absolutely nothing wrong with earning a living – even if it’s a way above average living. Not everyone who is in ‘get’ mode goes over the top crazy. Not everyone is going to con your grandma out of her life savings to get more for themselves. Not everyone is going to kick compassion to the curb just because they want to earn money.

    I really do believe that it’s okay and possible to provide a service to people and get that warm fuzzy feel-good feeling while looking for ways to make money. Maybe a lot of people don’t make it there, but that sweet spot is where we should be aiming for.

  8. This is a fascinating article on a subject I’ve done much reflection on. Being raised by *very* politically active parents in the ’70s, I grew up with the strong belief that the wealthy & powerful were ‘bad’ people and the poor ‘good.’ (Except for a few philanthropic and likeminded celebrities who supported The Cause du jour.)

    But here’s the funny thing about money: on its own it has no value. Literally. Our currency isn’t even backed by precious metals anymore. Money has no value, can do no harm or good, until we assign a value to it.

    It’s why our pleasure center is activated by the thought of money. Not because money itself is pleasurable, but because of the value we assign to it. For most of us, that value equals food, shelter, safety and sex. The basic needs for human survival.

    Money’s abstract nature gives it a mystique that many of us can feel intimidated by. As if money has the power to change who we are. It does not.

    Just as money can have an addictive quality, like sex, food, drugs and alcohol, if I truly know my Self…and am comfortable with what I find in Her…money can’t do anything to me but pay my bills and buy me that Cuban dinner I love so much. Oh…and a pedicure every now and then never ruined me either :)

    Thanks again!! Great food for thought.

  9. Margie

    Some people are naturally gifted to make money, they don’t find opportunity, opportunity lays down at their feet. I know a man who just knows how to take advantage of opportunities that fall into his lap. He and his wife are quite well off, but they do not hoard it all for themselves, and they have ethical business practices. I think they pretty much don’t give a hoot about money, except he’s just a magnet for wealth. This couple do a lot of good with the money they make. He has single-handedly funded churches being built. He gives to all kinds of charity and does way more than “tithe” (give 10% of earnings to the church).

    If you have a “giving” mindset and you “get” something, then you have that much more to give.
    But if you have a “getting” mindset, anything you get somehow never actually makes it back out into giving.
    If we start getting, I won’t look the gift horse in the mouth, so to speak, but I WILL remember that it is a gift, and that it is meant to be shared.
    Sometimes, human beings just need to own up to their selfishness and try going without something we want, so that someone else can get what they need, for a change. Thanks for flicking the switch, Leslie. :-)

  10. Joy

    There is an answer that many don’t want to hear. The problem is sin and our sin nature. The answer it turning your life over to the one Who is control of everything, except your will. God is the answer to every problem. We make choices every day, even making no choice is s choice. What we choose determines what we will do and think. I choose the Lord, Jesus Christ.

    • Bliss

      I’ll piggy back on to this. Jesus also said : seek first the kingdom of God and all these things shall be added unto you.

      In essence – when you put God first in everything, He provides what you need. Your perspective changes, and money becomes only a means to an end instead of a pleasure thing.

      a good book on this subject is Desiring God. It’s all about how following God is in one sense hedonistic…but John Piper, the author, redefines the term. I would suggest it if you actually want to figure out a good balance. :- D

  11. Karlita

    Perhaps heaven is unity.

    That is so beautiful and so powerful.

  12. Love of money vs. cheerful giver. The fact that we can be aware of our inherent nature and tendencies means we can try to make better choices. It’s not easy, but then nothing worthwhile is. What’s easy is keeping the blinders on and not seeing the cause and effect of our choices. Money isn’t evil. Having it isn’t either. It’s a necessity. What we do with it and how we feel about it are the key factors. (thought-provoking post!)

  13. I have worked with people for so long and have found this is one of the most common functions within someone that is out of balance. MANY givers are terrible receivers. Many people only focused on getting, don’t value the receiving.

    I AM A GIVER who has to work on being comfortable to receive, like many things it is all about balance. For every action there is a counter action. Giving/Getting,both actions when out of balance can be harmful or abused. But it is tha nature of things that there can not be one without the other. In the end I strongly feel that gratitude and value is the key. After all “Ask and you shall receive” is God’s words to us,in balance with “Do onto others as you would have them do onto you.”

    • Crunchy Betty

      That was very, very well put. And, I’ll have you know, I just read your comment without looking to see who it was and thought, “What a well-balanced, insightful commenter. I can’t wait to tell them how I think they’re wise.” And then it was you! So thank you. You are wise.

      Ultimately, my entire thought process while thinking this through, writing it, and reading what other people had to say was: It is important to give, and it is also important to “get,” but you should be conscious of the time you spend doing either of those things. Especially the getting part. And if you can get and be grateful at the same time, then you’ve achieved even better balance than before.

      • StephanieE

        What can I say thoughtful, inspired minds often think alike! After all, it is your mission now to find your power and your balance while standing for your beliefs. Something I searched long and hard for in my line of work :)

        In doing so, you turn over many stones, climb many mountains, walk many miles, speak many, many, many words, in search of the resonating truth within your being. This process is reflected in beauty in your life, your body and your mind.

  14. Jeff Thomas

    It’s important to recognize the difference between absolute wealth and relative wealth. Up to a certain point, increases in wealth correspond with increases in mostly universal human necessities for feeling happy and secure and being healthy – absolute wealth. After that point additional wealth measure comparatively – relative wealth.

    The “rat race” is the result of relative gains in wealth. Humans rather innately compare themselves to people in their peer groups. Look at what happens:

    Imagine a peer group of 2 people, Sally and Sam, who both exceed their absolute wealth needs.

    Sally gets a raise of 5 dollars. Compared to Sam, she gained 5 dollars. Sam compares himself to Sally and relatively has 5 less dollars.

    Sam then gets a raise of 5 dollars. Compared to Sally, he gained 5 dollars. And so on.

    This is called a zero-sum game: For “x” gain there is “x” loss. The problem with this game is…..people end up working more! What ends up happening is both Sally and Sam work more….for a net neutral affect. People are capable of escaping this vicious spiral through understanding and honest reflection. Don’t be Sally or Sam!

  15. I am from a Third World country where the few and mighty rich become richer. This is at the expense of the poor who are getting poorer and… plentier!

    This article means a lot. Bless you, Betty!

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