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  1. Marsha

    What a great post, and something I really needed today. Thanks SO MUCH!!

  2. Adrienne

    Thank you.

  3. This is something that women need to hear. With all the attacks against women there are on a daily basis it is great to get something so fully supportive. I plan on doing these exercises for myself and others. Thank You!

  4. Emily

    Great video, I like how so many body types are shown in the project. I think most of us are unhappy how we look in a bathing suit. I thought all of those women looked just fine – a good lesson.

  5. This video is great–I’m so impressed by the women who agreed to do this project. I’m writing a book on the history of swimsuits and body image and what amazes me is that, in the past–especially the 1920s–larger-framed women were seen as role models and heroes. But sadly they’ve been completely forgotten by history. As others commented, all of these women looked fine–probably because they are confident and healthy–and real. Thanks for sharing this.

  6. Margot

    Thank you so much for this. As a short, fat, forty nine year old woman I am starting to come to terms with my body and how wonderful it is (even though it is not some mythical ideal). Sometimes I forget to appreciate it.

  7. KarinSDCA

    I loved the video the first time around (and again)!!! I also love these action items and the concepts behind them. Thank you!

    I am brainstorming ways to introduce these thoughts/actions/ideas with pre-adolescent girls. My friend and I just started a new Girl Scout troop with 6th grade girls (ages 10-11 right now, but soon 11-12) . Any ideas on how to bring this concept to them in “kid-friendly” ways???

    • Melissa King

      Hi Karin! I love that you just started a new Girl Scout group. Girls Scouts did so much for my self-esteem when I was growing up. I have some ideas to share with you about incorporating the issue of body image into your activites with your members. I’m out of my office until Friday and typing on my phone at the moment, so check back here this weekend and I’ll post some more thoughts to your comment (when I can type much more quickly!).

      Melissa

    • Hi Karin,

      I am a little late returning here, but I wanted to take a little time to look at some research before posting.

      First, I want to say that a girl’s participation in Girl Scouts is already putting her in a good position. Girl Scouts provides opportunities to really connect with other girls in healthy ways, to experience achievement, to become connected with the experience and function of their bodies, and to become aware of one’s strengths.

      When I read your message, my first thought was to create activities that increase media literacy. By that, I mean, to have conversations that examine the messages that are being presented to these girls in TV, movies, and magazines. Talk about the intent behind the message (in advertising, characters in TV/Film), whether the messages are realistic, the possible consequences in real life vs. on TV. Teach them to ask questions and critically examine these messages.

      Have you seen the documentary Miss Representation (http://www.missrepresentation.org/)? This might be something you could show to the girls and then do an activity where they bring in a favorite movie or a magazine… And then talk about the way women are portrayed…

      I think it was Miss Representation where I heard this, but one mom talks to her daughter about these things when they’re watching television… asking things like, “Isn’t it strange that she’s in a tight leather body suit with heels while she’s fighting off bad guys?”

      That said, I read some research that shows that the Girls’ Circle curriculum improves social support, body image, and self-efficacy in girls who complete the program. You can find out how to facilitate the program and purchase manuals here: http://www.girlscircle.com

      I hope this is helpful. Stay in touch. I’d love to hear about any activities you decide to use!

      Melissa
      http://www.myheartdances.blogspot.com

  8. Amanda Adkinson

    What an amazing video…I hope these women know how truly awesome they are for doing this. It really makes you think more about how you are to others, and especially how you are to your own self. I criticize the mess out of myself even though I know it doesn’t help…I should really try harder to stop that and to appreciate myself for how I am. I get A LOT of comments on how petite I am..people think it doesn’t hurt because they are saying I’m really thin…but when you tell someone, “Hey, do you even eat?, or Watch out, the wind is going to blow you away”…etc…the list goes on…it DOES hurt…We can be so hard on ourselves without the help of anyone else, the media or airbrushed images. It takes a lot for a lot of us to accept how we are…but, the benefits of trying and succeeding that are obviously well worth it! I too thought the women in the video looked beautiful, and their self image was inspiring..They looked content with theirselves and that’s a beautiful thing. Thanks for the post and video!

    • I totally relate to your comments about people saying how thin you are and that you need to eat more, my response to them all is, “Hey, I eat heaps! I always have.” I also get told, “Oh, you’re really tall, you must love it.” I admit, it’s great being able to reach the top shelf without the need for a step ladder, but it’s an absolute pain trying to find any clothes that are long enough, even shoes and gloves (I go for the fingerless vairety)!

      We’re all made differently and that’s how it should be. We women are all alike in that, and therefore each one of us is totally unique and all the more beautiful for it!
      Thanks for the really great video!

  9. I love this video…it fits so well with where I am in this moment of my life. I’ve been drinking green smoothies for 3 weeks, using the facial wash regimen in your oily skin book, and today was my first day of no ‘poo. My boyfriend has been giving me so many compliments on how smooth my face is (he’s the type that’s only had one pimple in his life and his face is always super smooth) that I have not worn make-up in three days! This is the biggest accomplishment for me because I have always been a hardcore make-up user. Thank you so much for your blog, it has been the greatest thing to come into my life since my boyfriend, lol.

    • Amanda Adkinson

      i can so relate on not wearing makeup being a big accomplishment. i’ve been going without too after wearing it since i was 13, hardcore as well lol. it’s crazy even thinking i could! it’s a great feeling :)

  10. crunchynoob

    I LOVED the video! And this post is a wonderful follow-up :) how we perceive ourselves effects how we see everyone and everything else in the world. So if we love and accept ourselves, with all of our quirks and beautiful “flaws”, then we will love and accept those around us, too! :)

  11. aaronsrib

    I was never happy with my body. After having 6 children it is a hard reality that you will never see the body that you once had and now wish you had again. Learning to accept what I see in the mirror and take ownership of it is a daily challenge. I mostly envision myself the way I’d like to look and so when I do see the form that is me it throws me a bit. I sort of live in a skewed reality of what I look like. And I’m happy with that. Mostly I think my altered realty is created by my husband. He tells me daily that I am beautiful. I recently lost 20 lbs. I love fitting in smaller clothes but really they are just hiding the stretched out belly fat that is me.

  12. ActivistSheep

    I haven’t watched the video yet, but I wanted to point toward a resource for normalizing fat bodies. http://www.adipositivity.com/ (almost always NSFW)
    From the Adipositivity Project:
    Adipose: Of or relating to fat.

    Positivity: Characterized by or displaying acceptance or affirmation
    MISSION:
    The Adipositivity Project aims to promote size acceptance,
    not by listing the merits of big people, or detailing examples of
    excellence (these things are easily seen all around us), but rather,
    through a visual display of fat physicality. The sort that’s normally
    unseen.

    The hope is to widen definitions of physical beauty. Literally…..

  13. I love this article. I’ve uncomfortable with my looks for a while, but this inspires me to see myself in a new light. Thank you, so much. :)

  14. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rUOpqd0rQSo&feature=player_embedded

    This is a great video about a news anchor that was sent a nasty email about her weight. She attempted to laugh it off, but the support of her husband and hundreds of viewers and citizens inspired her to stand up and fight back on air. Truly inspiring!

  15. mel

    One thing I would like to add around the exercise bit (which i WHOLEHEARTEDLY support) is to lift heavy things. Women are afraid of doing weights (even body weight exercises like pushups and squats) because they think they will get too big. Nothing could be further from the truth!!! We simply don’t have the biology to support that notion (unless you are a pro body builder with very specific diet and maybe even some testosterone shots!).
    I started being a little more serious about including weights in my exercise through crossfit like routines. These are short (10-20min) so you don’t have to spend forever in a gym and can do many, if not all, at home if you like.
    I have been healthy and fit almost my whole life, but there is nothing compared to feeling physically strong. I can’t tell you how it’s changed me! Makes me feel more capable as an individual in all aspects. It has boosted my confidence even more than strict cardio workouts, improved posture, bettered all my other activities (stronger swimmer and runner!).

    And let me tell ya, you can get your heart rate up in a jiffy by doing a 10min workout of the day!!

  16. mel

    One thing I would like to add around the exercise bit (which i WHOLEHEARTEDLY support) is to lift heavy things. Women are afraid of doing weights (even body weight exercises like pushups and squats) because they think they will get too big. Nothing could be further from the truth!!! We simply don’t have the biology to support that notion (unless you are a pro body builder with very specific diet and maybe even some testosterone shots!).
    I started being a little more serious about including weights in my exercise through crossfit like routines. These are short (10-20min) so you don’t have to spend forever in a gym and can do many, if not all, at home if you like.
    I have been healthy and fit almost my whole life, but there is nothing compared to feeling physically strong. I can’t tell you how it’s changed me! Makes me feel more capable as an individual in all aspects. It has boosted my confidence even more than strict cardio workouts, improved posture, bettered all my other activities (stronger swimmer and runner!).

    And let me tell ya, you can get your heart rate up in a jiffy by doing a 10min workout of the day!!

  17. Jo Peters

    Melissa is a ugly dog

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